Destination Marriage

Episode #17 - sExpectations - Using Sex to Get What You Want

Today we are doing the second episode in our now regularly recurring series that we call sExpectations!  We want to have a lot of fun with these episodes as we talk about the sexual expectations and sexual needs, wants and desires between married couples.  We will explore highlights, pitfalls, blind spots, hurts and the pleasure that encompasses activities in the bedroom!

We plan to open up about our own sex life evolution in a way that offers our listeners some laughs, maybe some hope and maybe some great ideas!  We know the topics are endless, but we both agree that while we will be vulnerable to a degree - some topics and secrets will remain between me and Tommy!   Never kiss and tell

Today’s sExpectations episode title is – Using sex to get what you want

We have two big questions on this topic.   
1.  Do you use sex to get what you want
2. Should you use sex to get want you want?

 

 

 

 

 

Episode #16 - Comparison is the Thief of Joy

I’m sure most of you have heard of the saying...Comparison is the thief of joy which is a saying originally attributed to Theodore Roosevelt.   It’s been a pretty popular saying on social media as of late, but we thought it could be and should be applied to marriage as well.  So many of us look at social media and struggle with comparing ourselves to the person on the screen or the idea of who they are.  It’s extremely easy to do with essentially being able to look into everyone on the planet’s lives with the swipe of a finger or the push of a button. 

 

On today’s episode, we discuss the dangers of comparing our lives and our spouses to others and ways to avoid hurting yourself and your marriage.  Enjoy!

Episode #15 - Importance of Celebrating Anniversaries & More

If you are following us on Instagram, then you probably noticed that we just celebrated our 19th wedding anniversary!!   And if you know us personally then you know we always make a point to plan something special each year.

So, in today’s episode we will talk all about our recent trip for our anniversary and then shift towards the bigger picture and talk about why we believe celebrating your anniversary every year, as well as other seemingly small achievements or milestones really is a great idea for your marriage.

Episode #14 - Managing the New School Year

It’s back to school or is it? We are currently in the middle of figuring out what this new school year is going to look like for our middle schooler.  I know we’re not alone either.  I have had so many conversations with other moms about what they’re choosing to do for the new school year or perhaps what was chosen for them per their school district. There is no manual for this because it’s brand new to all of us so …we thought it would be good just to share some of the things we will be implementing for our middle schooler who is going virtual for at least the first nine weeks. 

It’s situations like this where we need to think creatively and collaborate together as husband and wife and also with you guys. We all need to help each other out with ideas around how we can make some lemonade out of this lemon.

Episode #13 - Destination Growth - "The One Thing"

Today we continue our series on Destination Growth. We are going to discuss “The One Thing  - The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results” by Gary Keller w/ Jay Papasan.

This is a fantastic booth that we found extremely applicable and timely with the ongoing Covid Pandemic and a lot of transition in our own lives personally, professionally and with our family.

How many times have you ended your day, week, month, or heaven forbid your year feeling like you didn’t accomplish anything even though you were juggling a million things at once? I know I have had those moments where I look back on the day and I’m not satisfied with how I managed my time, or I realize I never completed the one task I set out to do in the first place.  We have all had days like this, but the reality is that a collection of days where we simply don’t complete the necessary task or most important thing for the day… it snowballs into leading us down a path that moves us further away from our ONE Thing.

This is a must read for anyone who wants to reboot their time management, re-align their priorities or even change course to successfully reach desired goals and it applies to ALL areas of our life.

Episode #12 - Coping & Thriving with severe food allergies

On today’s episode, we discuss our experience of parenting a child with severe food allergies, environmental allergies and eczema.  We give some advice to managing as a parent, but what we are really excited about was having our 13 year old - Dylan join us on the podcast to give his perspective on actually living with these allergies.  We are so proud of Dylan’s confidence in not letting these allergies impact his life too negatively and he offers some advice for other kids going through what he goes through on a daily basis.

Episode #11 - sExpectations - The good, bad & ugly of keeping count!

Today we are launching the first in what we plan to be a regularly recurring series that we are calling sExpectations!  We want to have a lot of fun with these episodes as we talk about the sexual expectations and sexual needs, wants and desires between married couples.  We will explore highlights, pitfalls, blind spots and the joy that encompasses activities in the bedroom!

 

We plan to open up about our own sex life evolution in a way that offers our listeners some laughs, maybe some hope and maybe some great ideas!  We know the topics are endless, but we both agree that while we will be vulnerable to a degree - some topics and secrets will remain between me and Tommy!  Don’t kiss and tell …….. well maybe tell a little!

 

For our first episode in the sExpectations series we thought it would be fun to talk about the good, bad and ugly around keeping count.  We hope you enjoy!

Episode #10 - Meaningful friendships as adults

Today’s episode is very special for me and Jackie.  Mary, Jackie’s best friend of almost 30 years, joins us on the podcast to talk about real and truly meaningful friendships.  We share funny memories, discuss the past and the present and have fun quizzing each other on how well we know each other.  But most of all, we talk about how meaningful adult friendships have a positive impact on our lives yet are also very challenging - for both men and women.  Ultimately, we hope this episode gives you some deeper insight into what helps shape our lives and perhaps some tips into finding those true adult friendships that can have a positive impact in your life.  Enjoy!

Episode #9 - Enneagram personality tests - are there insights for a marriage?

On today’s podcast, we discuss the very popular Enneagram Personality Test and the insights in can offer into our marriage.  Both of us took the full 144 question test and were surprised how on point the results were for each.  We really enjoyed reading each other’s results and discussing how we can both use the individual characteristics to become better spouses for one another.

Episode #8 - Being Selfless in Your Marriage in a Selfish World

It sounds like a no brainer to be selfless or to put your spouse first, but it may not come natural to you, especially when putting our spouse first may require us to step away from something we want.  Today we discuss 10 ways to be selfless in your marriage while fighting the negative influences around us.

 10 ways to be selfless in your marriage

1. Being what your partner needs vs. looking for your needs to be met
2. Helping your spouse accomplish their dreams - perhaps by sacrificing yours
3. Respecting one another’s time – just because you’re on different schedules doesn’t mean their time isn’t just as valuable
4. Thinking first about how your actions affect the other
5. Taking a chore off the other’s plate – especially the one they don’t really care to do
6. Be sensitive to the things that could be an emotional trigger for them
7. Intentionally stepping away from what interests you to plug into what your partner enjoys/is interested in
8. Proactively setting up an activity that your partner enjoys doing
9. Ensuring that your marriage comes before the kids.
10. Focus on being the perfect match for your spouse instead of focusing on your spouse meeting your needs